the Hope of Survivors

Progressive Steps to Healing (from Clergy Sexual Abuse)—Linda Beldin-Korter, LCSW

Hope(From the July 2014 edition of HopeSpeak)

1. Cut off avenues of contact with the abuser.

2. Recognize this was abuse.

3. Talk to a counselor (break the silence, tell your story).

4. Unmask the lies of the abuser (You did not cause the abuse.  It was not your fault.).

5. You have the same “rights” as anyone else who comes to God, attends church, or who seeks help.

6. Making amends in healing and recovery (empowering to victims; good idea to seek suggestions as victims tend to blame themselves).

7. Twelve-Step Recovery helpful.

8. Continuing to unmask the lies, distortions, and misrepresentation (of the abuser) around religious or psychological teachings.

9. Listening to Creator (empowering to victims to study, pray, and hear God’s voice and will for themselves).

10. The call to help others.

11. Directly addressing “Church PTSD” (Victims need support in this area from people who understand this type of trauma.).

12. Healing connection to spiritual-recovery community and/or church (healing the loss of “church”).
 
The prey of the terrible shall be delivered: for I will contend with him that contends with you…”—Isaiah 49:25
 
Come, let us reason together says the Lord.”—Isaiah 1:18

The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart...Psalms 34:18