Although this web site exists primarily to bring hope and healing
to the survivors of pastoral sexual abuse, we realize there is a need
to bring hope and healing to the pastor, his family, and the church
body as well.
We hope that any church member affected by pastoral abuse which occurred
in his/her church will be able to more fully comprehend the dynamics
of what has taken place and not be so quick to exonerate the pastor
and blame the victim. There is always another side to the situation
and if you, as a church member, have only heard one side of it, you
cannot possibly know the truth.
Both parties (victim and perpetrator) need encouragement and strength.
Not encouragement to continue in sin, but rather to turn from it, repent
and seek forgiveness. It is our hope that the pastor (or whomever)
reading these articles will be convicted by the Holy Spirit and forsake
his sins and return to Christ—our only Savior.
How Does this Happen?
“The abusive pastor or spiritual leader has allowed himself
to go a long way down the track before he ever commits the crime of
abuse. But until the crime is committed, he likely doesn’t realize
just how far he has already strayed. When once the deed is done or
the pattern begins to unfold, the huge distance from the Lord becomes
readily apparent. And it can seem like too enormous a gulf to bridge
to ever get back. So the abuser doesn’t try, at least not very
hard. Rather he continues to medicate his spiritual pain with fleshly
anesthetic which is addictive. And the Evil One laughs obscenely at
his success over human weakness.
When the victim is trapped by this crime, she is often on her way,
or trying to be on her way, back to wholeness from brokenness. Of course
wholeness, including spiritual growth, is the last thing the devil
wants. So he sets her up for abuse by the human she is seeking a path
to wholeness from, sending her back into the abyss out of which she
has started to climb. And again his laughter is loud and ugly.”—Tom
Lemon, Oregon Conference Ministerial Director
Words of Caution
As a pastor, or other spiritual leader or teacher, you
must recognize that God holds you more accountable and responsible
for keeping His standard, not only for your words, but for your whole
manner of life.
many of you become teachers, my brethren, knowing that as such we
will incur a stricter judgment.”—James 3: 1 (NASB)
We encourage you to stand firm in the Lord, stand on His promises