If the members of the church are consecrated to God
and use the wisdom, discretion and discernment the Lord gives them, they will
be able to notice when something is amiss. The pastor may begin to act differently.
His sermon content or style may change. His social activities may change,
either becoming more frequent or more withdrawn. Below are some of the things
of which alert church members should take notice:
1. Pastor may be overly friendly or flirtatious with women
in the congregation.
2. Pastor may be controlling or manipulative.
3. Pastor may counsel women alone with the door closed
and/or the window covered.
4. Pastor may begin making inappropriate comments (sensual,
suggestive, questionable, etc.) during the sermon, Bible study, etc.
5. If you notice a woman paying more attention to the
pastor than usual, or looking at him or behaving inappropriately toward him, be aware that there
may be other reasons for this behavior.The woman may be responding the pastor’s “secret”
signals and behavior. If the church member who is observing this behavior only observes the woman,
he/she may be led to a very wrong conclusion—that the woman was “coming on to”
the pastor—when it could very well be that all along the pastor was initiating this behavior
and was just more adept at keeping it secret. After all, who wants to suspect their pastor? It
is much easier to blame the woman than to accept what could be the truth. There have been many
instances when after the abuse was exposed, other members of the congregation came forward to
tell of how they had noticed “strange” things happening but never said anything about
it or investigated it in any way.
6. If you have the opportunity, observe the pastor’s
behavior outside of church as well. As a representative of Christ, the pastor should be consistent
in all his activities, whether in the church or at home or in public. He is to live a godly life,
not just preach about one. If you find that your pastor is drinking, smoking, going to pool/billiard
halls, listening to secular music, watching inappropriate movies, and so on, then there are big
problems that must be addressed immediately! These things are NOT the mind of Christ. Christ
would never exhibit any of these behaviors. The pastor is to represent Christ to his flock at
Please understand that we are not encouraging anyone to “spy”
on their pastor or another congregant. However, if you are concerned about
someone’s behavior, you need to be aware that there may be other
things going on which are not readily apparent. We believe that there
are many godly men
who stand for truth and should be commended and respected for fulfilling
their role as a pastor and representative of Christ. We do not wish, in
to encourage undue suspicion or paranoia of a pastor or other church leader.